Got this off my multiply blog. No, I didn’t write it. I also reposted it from my friend’s blog, which she also got from somewhere else. It still applies to me after all these years. I guess I will always be a meantime girl…
What’s a meantime girl? Shes the one you call when you’re bored because she makes you laugh. She’s the one you talk to when you’re feeling down because she’s willing to lend an ear & be a friend. She’s not the one you call when you need a date to your company’s party, or to go dancing with on a Saturday night. She’s the one you spend time with between girlfriends, before you find “The One”. You know, the one who you keep around in the meantime.
She’s not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don’t look at her as a “real” woman, either. She’s not bitchy enough, moody enough, or sexy enough to be seen in that light. She’s too laid-back, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by. She’s too understanding, too comfortable. She doesn’t make you feel nervous or excited the way a “real” woman does. But she’s cool, and nice, and funny, and attractive enough that when you’re lonely or horny & need intimate female companionship, she’ll do just fine.
You don’t have to wine & dine her because she knows the real you already, & you don’t have any facades to keep up, no pretenses to preserve. You’re not trying to get anything of substance out of her.She’s not easy, but you know that she cares about you & is attracted to you, & that she’ll give you the intimacy you need. And you know you don’t have to explain yourself or the situation, that she’ll be able to cope with the fact that this isn’t the beginning of a relationship or that there’s any possibility that you have any real romantic feelings for her.
It won’t bother her that you’ll get up in the morning, put on your pants, say goodbye, & go on a date with the woman you’ve been mooning over for weeks who finally agreed to go out with you. She’ll settle for a goodbye hug & a promise to call her & tell her how the date went. She’s just so cool . Why can’t all women be like that?
But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don’t, because to you, the situation between the two of you isn’t important enough to merit any real thought), you know that it’s not fair. You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know that despite all her good points & all the fun you two have, you don’t think shes good enough to spend any real time with.
Sure, its mostly her fault, because she doesn’t have to give in to your needs anyway; she could play the hard-to-get bitch like the rest of them do, if she really wanted to. But you & her both know that she probably couldn’t pull it off. Maybe shes too short, or a little overweight, or has a big birthmark on her forehead, or is just a plain-looking person with a great sense of humor.
Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but has left out the ones that men want (or think they want) in a woman. So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the secret lover, & you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow be everything you ever wanted in a woman. You’ll joke to her that she should be the best man at your wedding, & she’ll laugh & make a joke about a smelly rental tux.
She doesn’t captivate you with her beauty, or open doors with her smile. Mainly she blends in with the crowd. She’s safe. She doesn’t want to be the center of attention & turn the heads of everyone in the room.
But she wants to turn someones head. She wants to be special to someone, too. We all do. She has feelings. She has a heart. In fact,she probably has a bigger & better heart than any woman you’ve ever known because she’s had a front-row seat to “The Mess That Is Your Life”, and yet she likes you anyway. She obviously sees something worthwhile & redeeming in you because although you’ve given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be around, she is.
Anyway, yeah. I’m a Meantime Girl. Been one more times than I care to admit. I don’t know the reason, really, and at this point I don’t even care. I just want to let every guy know who’s had the good fortune to have a Meantime Girl that we may be a lot of fun, but we cry, too. A lot. And someday we won’t be around.